Miss Arakawa sure pays attention to every little detail. It’s so awesome that she gave Winry and Riza this reunion after their deep conversation in Resembool. And I like how they compliment each other :) it’s so heartwarming.
I’m always sad that Brotherhood cut out the fact they did meet again. And were total cuties about it.
Female characters who are survivors of abuse are important. Female characters who free themselves from their abusers, refuse to be defined by their abusers, who live and fight- they are important. I was emotionally abused, occasionally physically intimidated and terrified of my formerly alcoholic father for years- I still get incredibly nervous around him and can’t stay around him too long. So they’re important to me
But when I defend them and try to talk about the positive things i find in these narratives, it’s amazing the intensity of how rude people can be about it.
Yes, I am incredibly protective of Historia Reiss as a character. No, I do not want to see a survivor of severe child abuse manhandled, screamed at and forced into a role by an adult man, her superior officer. No, I do not care what bullshit excuses you come up about “it’s not black and white morality” and “it’s a war!” or “humanity is at stake”. Fuck justifying, I grew up hearing justifications. I don’t care about your precious darling. I’m not making excuses for male abusers, and if you can’t guess why, go fuck yourself. I care about the survivor of abuse who is being manhandled and terrorized by him.
Yes, i am incredibly protective of Stephanie Brown and Cassandra Cain. Anyone who belittles what they go through makes me angry.
The fact that people got such a stick up their ass for me writing about how Riza Hawkeye’s narrative of reclaiming her identity from her abusive father was empowering still amazes me. People weren’t upset that I “misapplied feminism” because I was white and shouldn’t have done that (which would have been a valid point), but because they couldn’t possibly see how that was important to women to have those narratives.
The fact people say “oh she got help so it doesn’t count” angers me. As if survivors don’t deserve help and aren’t allowed to depend on anyone so they can fit some arbitrary definition of ”strong?” Just because you can’t see it doesn’t mean it’s not incredibly important to some people.
I cannot believe it was argued to me when I discussed Maka Albarn not putting up with her dad’s hurtful behaviour, that I was told it is wrong to cut ties to a parent that has an addiction, a parent who is unwilling to give up their addiction, a parent who hurts you repeatedly. I can’t believe it was argued that it is unfair to cut yourself off from a harmful parent.
I have learned so much about how little regard people have for women who survive abuse, their attitude towards abuse survivors, through fandom discussions. It’s amazing.