It was the queer community that allowed me to realize what I was
I found out about the definition of asexual reading a list of queer orientations and realized “hey that might be me”
I’ve never felt the need to join a specifically asexual community because it was the queer community that was my support group- interacting with that community was what made me feel comfortable that my sexuality was not normative, allowed me to see that a) I don’t seem to experience sexual urges the way society constructs them and that’s okay!!! b) I am attracted to girls romantically maybe even moreso than i am to boys and that’s okay!!!
so yeah i never felt the need to go off into a sandbox- not just because hey i like girls but because it was the queer community that taught me about asexuality too
so when I here people say
“hey why don’t you just keep it to yourself”
“it’s not the same as us your oppression isn’t doesn’t exist you don’t belong”
that’s the exact same arguments these people would discredit if used against bisexuals (which i also am maybe wow~!~!)
no one’s trying to invade your specifically lesbian/specifically whatever community and i’m not trying to say hetero aces belong in certain groups and conversations as anything but allies
but we need to seriously look at how asexuals are treated within the queer community. because we face our own set of difficulities that overlap with general sexual orientational opression and a lot of us face that on top to being lgbt .
we just want a place in the QUEER COMMUNITY
that’s why the term and queer umbrella was invented! so that EVERYONE that was not normative could band together and ALSO have their own spaces!
AND HEY THAT SHOULD INCLUDE ASEXUALS
yeah why don’t i just say I’m straight too!!!
Its really relieving to hear there’s stuff like this. my asexuality has made me so miserable when I’m in a relationship :/ I constantly feel like I’m not good enough for my partner and everything says low libido = depressed and needs meds.
Oh do not even listen to that shit. If you need support, I’m always here, and here are some other good resources:
Links to most of the existing accessible-to-everyone academic research on asexuality
Empirically, very little is known about asexuality relative to other sexual orientations, and no research has addressed whether asexuals are targets of bias at the group level. Addressing this latter question for the first time, our analysis suggests that antiasexual prejudice is indeed a sexual minority prejudice, correlating positively with attitudes toward homosexuals and bisexuals.
Relative to the heterosexual ingroup, we find compelling evidence of antisexual minority prejudice, with this newly identified bias being particularly extreme. Strikingly, on many key measures (particularly intergroup evaluations, dehumanization, and for the most part, contact intentions), we find significantly more bias against asexuals than other sexual minorities, and discrimination intentions matching that against homosexuals
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despite the fact he only used a convenience sample of grad students at one place and obviously entered the project with a desire to prove something (asexuality is bc of homophobia and sexual confusion) with no real evidence. It’s basically “hey lemme see what I wanna see” And 97 percent of those surveyed were het how is this proving anything
science! u r doing it wrong